Comments on: THE CHILD CRIES FROM PUBLIC DRAINS http://tamunobarabi.wordpress.com/2008/04/04/the-child-cries-from-public-drains/ A community information service project Wed, 11 Mar 2009 18:07:29 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: writeasrain http://tamunobarabi.wordpress.com/2008/04/04/the-child-cries-from-public-drains/#comment-92 writeasrain Sun, 06 Apr 2008 02:55:02 +0000 http://tamunobarabi.wordpress.com/?p=32#comment-92 I understand the need to feed a family. I understand having too many mouths to feed. But, to say it is all from women being too promiscuous is wrong. It takes a woman AND A MAN to create these babies. Rape is not promiscuous behavior. It is sexual violence that is forced. When only the women suffer the consequences of a rape(becoming pregnant and responsible to take care of a child) these horrible situations continue. There must be heavy consequences for the men involved in rape or force. They must have to pay money to support the children they create. Every child deserves to be born out of love...not rape and not sex-for-survival. It is not the child's fault for being born. There should be safe houses for these children to be raised if they cannot be raised with their parents. To throw away those babies is to spit in God's face. Every life has value and has meaning. What this country needs is education and knowledge to prevent too many births. I understand the need to feed a family. I understand having too many mouths to feed. But, to say it is all from women being too promiscuous is wrong. It takes a woman AND A MAN to create these babies.

Rape is not promiscuous behavior. It is sexual violence that is forced. When only the women suffer the consequences of a rape(becoming pregnant and responsible to take care of a child) these horrible situations continue. There must be heavy consequences for the men involved in rape or force. They must have to pay money to support the children they create.

Every child deserves to be born out of love…not rape and not sex-for-survival. It is not the child’s fault for being born. There should be safe houses for these children to be raised if they cannot be raised with their parents.

To throw away those babies is to spit in God’s face. Every life has value and has meaning. What this country needs is education and knowledge to prevent too many births.

]]> By: Mcneri http://tamunobarabi.wordpress.com/2008/04/04/the-child-cries-from-public-drains/#comment-91 Mcneri Fri, 04 Apr 2008 19:23:03 +0000 http://tamunobarabi.wordpress.com/?p=32#comment-91 It is not the young girls that are to blame, neither is it their parents. The socila structure should have preventive measures to protect vulnerable families. Check this out: parents no education, inflation biting on their subsistence way of living, father a vulcanizer (thank god some tradeable skill), mother sells pure water. Okay no clue about family planning so the babies come as frequently as the couple sleep on the same bed. 7 mouths to feed after 5 years.......or maybe 4 years because they had twins! Then comes the anguish of having to work longer hours to make ends meet. Vulcanizer stays out till 9pm when it is dangerous to walk the streets; pure water sales and occassionally 'down below' to randy city dwellers to supplement what husband brings home. Then another child comes, chei! What will they do? Nowhere to get free healthcare for the baby, no support of even one tin of baby food. As the babies come, the distance between this family and the extended family 'extends' a bit more, as everybody is constantly reliving Shehu Shagari's 'austerity measures'. tell me it is the responsibility of this family to make sure that child has a life. At least at the dustbin, someone will pick the baby up, take her to the hospital as an abandoned child and the child will recieve care.....AND FOOD free!When our professionals garnish the truth with all sorts of big big grammar, I wonder. Yes I wonder: Am I the most intelligent person involved, or are these people just pretending not to see the truth. Blaming it on promiscuity is a farce. There are very few adults that do not have sex, very few. Empowering the individual elevates him/her above the sex-for-survival level. Until we do that, the worst is yet to come! It is not the young girls that are to blame, neither is it their parents. The socila structure should have preventive measures to protect vulnerable families. Check this out: parents no education, inflation biting on their subsistence way of living, father a vulcanizer (thank god some tradeable skill), mother sells pure water. Okay no clue about family planning so the babies come as frequently as the couple sleep on the same bed. 7 mouths to feed after 5 years…….or maybe 4 years because they had twins! Then comes the anguish of having to work longer hours to make ends meet. Vulcanizer stays out till 9pm when it is dangerous to walk the streets; pure water sales and occassionally ‘down below’ to randy city dwellers to supplement what husband brings home. Then another child comes, chei! What will they do? Nowhere to get free healthcare for the baby, no support of even one tin of baby food. As the babies come, the distance between this family and the extended family ‘extends’ a bit more, as everybody is constantly reliving Shehu Shagari’s ‘austerity measures’. tell me it is the responsibility of this family to make sure that child has a life. At least at the dustbin, someone will pick the baby up, take her to the hospital as an abandoned child and the child will recieve care…..AND FOOD free!When our professionals garnish the truth with all sorts of big big grammar, I wonder. Yes I wonder: Am I the most intelligent person involved, or are these people just pretending not to see the truth. Blaming it on promiscuity is a farce. There are very few adults that do not have sex, very few. Empowering the individual elevates him/her above the sex-for-survival level. Until we do that, the worst is yet to come!

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